I was recently told a story of a man who lost his wife to illness. They had two young children and were considered an ideal family. But like most relationships their life was not without it’s own personal struggles.
When this mans wife died he moved on to a new relationship within a couple of months. The couple were a good match but some friends turned their backs because they felt that it all happened too quickly.
What about forgiveness, understanding and compassion?
This man had his reasons for moving on. Maybe he sought it out or maybe he had no agenda and it just happened naturally.
Either way, as friends we need to be there unconditionally for one another.
I will speak for myself: I choose not to judge, blame or reject anyone in regards to decisions they make for their life.
I choose not to lay blame on one person over another. I want to be neutral and offer compassion to all. It feels right…to be that way.
I also have been on the receiving end of judgement, blame and then rejection.
It feels like shit.
I didn’t understand what that shitty feeling felt like when once, a long time ago, I rejected a friend when she moved on quickly after divorce.
I didn’t understand then but I understand now.
Maybe it was what I needed to learn at the time in order to help me understand forgiveness, understanding and compassion.